You're not an anxious person by nature. You're a guard who never got told the danger passed. When your system decides it needs to be ready, it shifts you into a state built for action — heart rate up, muscles primed, attention scanning.

Useful for an afternoon. Exhausting as a way of life. For a lot of us, that "be ready" setting stopped switching off a long time ago, so the body keeps spending energy on a threat that isn't in the room. That's the wave you can't think your way out of — because it's firing faster than thought.

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The numbness isn't laziness or failure. It's protection. There's a particular tiredness that sleep doesn't touch, and a foggy distance that can feel like you're watching your own life from behind glass.

That's not you giving up. When a system has been braced for too long, it reaches for the other survival setting — shutting down, conserving, going still. It kept you safe once. The way back isn't force. It's small, gentle signals that it's safe to come back online.

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People-pleasing was never a character flaw. It's a survival strategy your nervous system learned, and learned well. Somewhere along the way, your system learned that staying tuned to everyone else's moods was how you stayed safe. So it never fully stands down. It scans, anticipates, adjusts — reading the room before it reads you.

That's why saying no can feel dangerous and why you end up running on empty. You're spending energy tracking everyone but yourself. It's not weakness. It's a body that learned to survive by keeping other people okay first.

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